Beginner’s Mind

You may think you're in the middle of it, you may think it's ending, you might even think it's over – but here's the secret: it's always beginning!

This is wonderful news! Rejoice!

You already know the implications of this fact, of course.

When you think you've got it figured out - when you focus on the end and not the means...that's when you get mad. That's when you separate from others. That's when you become blind to what's right in others. That's when your world starts to turn against you.

It's reactive. It's limiting. It's not for you.

When we all think we know better, we've nothing in common. There's no place to go. It's over.

Ahhh, but when you have NO IDEA, and you admit it...that's when you're most approachable, that's when you are fascinated by the world and everyone in it, that's when people give you a break (followed by a hand), that's when your eyes are bright and your tail turns bushy, that's when you're really you.

It's freeing. It's expansive. It's yours for the taking.

When we all admit that we don't know, we become equal. Our ground is common. We begin together.

Be an eternal BEGINNER with your clients...in return, they will be eternally grateful, eternally open, eternally exploring.

Watch the space of your relationship open up. If you close your eyes, you will sense the raised eyebrows of a golden retriever pup. You will feel an inviting, gentle, curious, playful tilt of the head...just a few degrees to the right. Pupils dilate ever so slightly...

That's your cue: grab the leash, put on your comfy shoes, pick-up a tennis ball, and go out for a walk in the sunshine. Just you and your client.

-- THE BEGINNING --

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Steve Tulowitzki

Hi, I'm Steve. I am a dad, a husband, a coach, a trainer, a friend, and a seeker of my true self; on a quest for truth and good in the world. I've served clients as a strategy consultant since 1999. When I decided to stop talking and start listening, I began my journey to become a coach. I've been trained by the Coaches Training Institute as a Co-Active coach. Here are some fundamentals about Co-Active coaches:. We don't believe that people have problems and need to be fixed - we believe that people are naturally creative, resourceful and whole. We don't walk around life with a predetermined script - we dance in each moment. We don't focus on problems or drone on with our own advice and pretense - we focus on the whole person to help you discover your solutions...often in unexpected places in the unfamiliar nooks and crannies of your humanity. We don't shy away from the uncomfortable questions - we won't let you off the hook, because our goal is always to evoke transformation. My dream is to create and contribute to the coaching revolution so that we can all walk around with eyes wide open in a modern, more authentic world. I can't wait to join forces with you. According to Mark Twain, "The secret of getting ahead is getting started." So let's get started!

2 thoughts on “Beginner’s Mind”

  1. Hi Shannon – the paradox of that is so entertaining and true. Admitting that I don’t know makes it possible and easier and more fun for me to know.

    Stego (my ego) doesn’t like me to change (eg, learn), and hence is always telling me to pretend that I already know.

    When I resist this urge to be fake, my relationships are real. I took a beginner’s mind to my session today with a client, and the result was deep, expansive and meaningful.

    Those words rarely described my conversations with clients when I was a very knowledgeable consultant.

    This points to the difference between knowledge and wisdom.

  2. Hey Steve, So true to have a beginner’s mind! It frees us from having to know a thing and makes learning so much easier. We don’t expect to get how something works immediately and that makes it so much easier to learn! Shannon

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